Secrets

Post Secret is a pretty amazing web site, that I only found out about a couple of weeks ago. People send in their secrets on one side of a hand designed post-cards, some of the secrets are silly, some hopeful, many are really sad. Each Sunday (Monday New Zealand time) it is updated with a new week's worth of secrets, but there are only ever two weeks at a time.

I think I find these fragments of people's lives so moving because they are fragments - because I start filling in the gaps imaging the lives of the women and men who wrote them.

So many women send postcards about being women, about their bodies, about pregnancy, about children, about their relationships with men. There are very few secrets that are specific to men. Women have all the secrets, all the fear and pain, men have, but then have to carry round an extra stash on top.