tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post114571258385699006..comments2023-10-30T02:03:56.081+13:00Comments on Capitalism Bad; Tree Pretty: Down with Practically EverythingMaiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17212711843307060731noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145772217908501292006-04-23T18:03:00.000+12:002006-04-23T18:03:00.000+12:00So...it's not about ice cream? That's false advert...So...it's not about ice cream? That's false advertising! But I've read it now..<BR/><BR/>I totally dig what you say about institutionalised officially recognised bereavement. Same deal when next of kin have special privilages- even though this may bare no relation to your strongest bonds.<BR/><BR/>But I agree with Milt too. And between the lines, Maia, you seem to be putting female fraternity somewhere up higher than male.Rickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315796390662297759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145763830380080842006-04-23T15:43:00.000+12:002006-04-23T15:43:00.000+12:00"I agree with this analysis. Men are supposed to p..."I agree with this analysis. Men are supposed to put other men over women."<BR/>Except that you're once again talking about some dumbass men as though they were representative of the entire set. I could read this kind of thing without complaining if there were disclaimers like "mostly" or "statistically more likely to" or suchlike, but instead it's bald statements like "Men are supposed to put other men over women." I've had the concept that I owed more to my male friends than my girlfriend/wife put to me on numerous occasions over the decades by men who were unquestionably broken in some important sense, and like many other men, recognised the people who think like that for what they are. I can't sit back and read that this broken attitude is somehow representative of me without comment.<BR/><BR/>On the same basis, are women really supposed to put men ahead of other women? I see plenty of women putting a <I>particular man</I> ahead of other women, but that's what making a commitment to someone else is about. It's biology, not training. If you want a reason why sexual relationships are privileged over others, hormones and the evolutionary processes that put them there cover it completely. Any social theory we might want to throw in on top is strictly a garnish.Psycho Milthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00779500926576047736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145759447207398432006-04-23T14:30:00.000+12:002006-04-23T14:30:00.000+12:00My best friend and I were actually talking about t...My best friend and I were actually talking about that today. She's moving to New Zealand (she's a yank), and I was commenting on how a lot of people would think that it's weird that someone would move all the way to New Zealand partly on the basis of a friendship.<BR/><BR/>I think in a way a lot of women are their own worst enemies when it comes to destroying female friendships.<BR/><BR/>We've become so programmed into compteting against eachother for jobs, men etc. that the frienships we had even a generation ago are far more different.<BR/><BR/>And winter your right, I think people place too much emphais on sexual relationships being the be all and end. I'd rather go throw life having my best friend in it, than being stuck in a so-so marriage.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05680274679737065263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145749860052367752006-04-23T11:51:00.000+12:002006-04-23T11:51:00.000+12:00The problem is more that hetronormativity doesn't ...The problem is more that hetronormativity doesn't mean anything much to me, because I don't know that much about queer theory. I thought it's meaning was more similar to hetrocentric, which is a term I did understand.<BR/><BR/>But I wanted to post this anyway, I'm glad you liked it.Maiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17212711843307060731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145728730847734062006-04-23T05:58:00.000+12:002006-04-23T05:58:00.000+12:00Brava!What a terrific post/contribution. Thank yo...Brava!<BR/><BR/>What a terrific post/contribution. Thank you for the thoughtful read.greymattershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12636557061321902687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145717484669790262006-04-23T02:51:00.000+12:002006-04-23T02:51:00.000+12:00Actually it really winds me up that sexual couple ...Actually it really winds me up that sexual couple relationships are privileged over all other kinds of relationship. Everything else is supposed to make way for them. <BR/><BR/>Don't feel constrained by wikipedia - at the end of the day it's only a compilation of peoples' opinions. I think you should go with what "heteronormativity" means to you.Winterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07417665775296548835noreply@blogger.com