tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post114544966418745869..comments2023-10-30T02:03:56.081+13:00Comments on Capitalism Bad; Tree Pretty: CarnivalMaiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17212711843307060731noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145564673081905782006-04-21T08:24:00.000+12:002006-04-21T08:24:00.000+12:00I certainly think that the objectification of wome...I certainly think that the objectification of women in the media is disgusting. Things like "Striperella" make my stomach turn. But if you complain about stuff like that you're a "fundamentalist nut" (I'm Catholic), but I just really don't like the whole recreational sex movement because it takes all the emotional connection out of sexuality. <BR/><BR/>I've often wondered why people use prostitutes, why would you want to have sex with someone who only consented to have sex with you because you paid them? Other than the money they don't want you at all, it's a total turn off in my mind, but obviously not for other people.Muerkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00983180202172098977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145499093844341532006-04-20T14:11:00.000+12:002006-04-20T14:11:00.000+12:00>"How come it's so common then to hear about sexua...>"How come it's so common then to hear about sexual abuse in this country amongst personal acquaintances?"<BR/><BR/>I am sorry if this sounds flippant and dismissive because I don't mean it that way- but maybe thats a function of your social circles rather than indicative of the general state of NZ society. <BR/> <BR/>>"I must admit I don't know that many teenagers at the moment, but it would seem though looking at popular culture ie video games, movies, tv and music that the message is that women are pieces of meat to be brutalised for your viewing pleasure. Whether it's CSI Whatever, Grand Theft Auto, Eminem, or the latest atrocity fake or real on the Internet - it all amounts to the same message over and over again - everyday."<BR/><BR/>Thats some of what I mean about the freak show pornographic aspects of our modern day culture & conflicting messages.<BR/><BR/>Incidentally please don't think I'm dismissive of the issues. I'm a card carrying feminist. I've voluntarily in the past in the course of my studies researched battered woman syndrome and on ACC and tort compensation for sexual abuse. I know its out there and its horrible. But that 1 in four women are abused statistic has been comprehensively discredited and when I look around me at the men I know and have known and reflect on my own experience I still think its only a minority of men that do it.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04797661728002935006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145490945991542682006-04-20T11:55:00.000+12:002006-04-20T11:55:00.000+12:00I knew about Woody Guthrie's illness but it doesn'...I knew about Woody Guthrie's illness but it doesn't help.<BR/><BR/>I'm going to write a follow-up post tonight exploring what I mean, and where I agree and disagree with Amy and biting beever. I'll address the issue about <BR/><BR/>I agree that no means no should not be the only message, but that's because Idon't think nearly enough energy is put into what 'yes' looks like.Maiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17212711843307060731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1145479513093216162006-04-20T08:45:00.000+12:002006-04-20T08:45:00.000+12:00If it helps at all Woody Guthrie was mentally ill....If it helps at all Woody Guthrie was mentally ill.<BR/><BR/>You might not agree with me but I'm going to say it anyway. Of course rape is terrible and inexcusable and should be dealt with. However, I truly believe it is a minority of men who perpetuate it or think it is anyway acceptable. It is the exception not the norm and it needs to be seen in that perspective. <BR/><BR/>In terms of how to deal with it I am becoming increasingly troubled by the messages about their sexuality that young males receive. A 13 year old boy is innocent and probably confused. He has to learn to deal with his own hormones and emotions and at the same time start to learn how to become sexually active in socially appropriate ways. What message does this young man get? Constant battering with the message NO means No and the implicit assumption that he is probably a rapist in waiting. At the same time he gets exposed to the current freak show norms of modern day pornography. It has to be confusing and very possibly conducive to self loathing. It's not any kind of preparation for healthy participation in mutually affirming and enjoyable relations with the opposite sex.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04797661728002935006noreply@blogger.com