tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post113135084267458174..comments2023-10-30T02:03:56.081+13:00Comments on Capitalism Bad; Tree Pretty: From the courtsMaiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17212711843307060731noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1131522329014874932005-11-09T20:45:00.000+13:002005-11-09T20:45:00.000+13:00there's been a lot of research done about why abus...there's been a lot of research done about why abused partners don't leave, and in addition to the list mentioned above there is the fact that for those who have been ground down and bullied for years there is a certain odd certainty about life with the abusive partner, which leaving them would throw into disarray. i tend to see it to a lesser degree when people won't leave jobs where their boss treats them appallingly - the "but where else can i go" factor - they simply cannot imagine life any other way and to try to do so is far too frightening.Spanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16896745511007816190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1131446460408683802005-11-08T23:41:00.000+13:002005-11-08T23:41:00.000+13:00As Suze and Anonymous said, my point was about the...As Suze and Anonymous said, my point was about the legal system, and the sexist result of our legal system's sexist assumptions in their definition of self-defence, and premeditation.<BR/><BR/>The paper today seemed to imply that the Hamilton woman was going to argue that she didn't intend to kill him, just to slow him down.<BR/><BR/>I noticed that Nazi flag story as well - I wonder whether the defence will succeed.Maiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17212711843307060731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1131410041140292582005-11-08T13:34:00.000+13:002005-11-08T13:34:00.000+13:00It's also a better course of action to get yoursel...It's also a better course of action to get yourself some more drugs, rather than killing the person you think is responsible for hiding them. Or buying yourself a new Nazi flag, to take an example from today's paper.<BR/><BR/>Provocation works as a defence when your better judgement is overthrown, something which is more typically thought of as caused by a sudden shock. I think it's a fair argument that years of abuse can also have that effect on your judgement.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1131400084182511352005-11-08T10:48:00.000+13:002005-11-08T10:48:00.000+13:00Leaving a partner isn't as simple as just walking ...Leaving a partner isn't as simple as just walking out the door...especially if you have been with them for many years, you have children with them, and they scare the fuck out of you. <BR/><BR/>There are many many reasons why women stay with abusive partners, so it's hard to generalise, but I'll name a few anyway - 1. hope that the relationship will improve, 2. the shame and social stigma of the relationship ending (linked to self blame in many cases), 3. economic reasons e.g. lack of personal wealth and reliance on the partner's income, and 4. just plain fear that the partner will retaliate and do something awful to them or their children. <BR/>It's just not as simple as up-and-leaving, and I think each case is really very individual. <BR/><BR/>On the bright side (if there is one...), the accused is being represented by Judith Ablett Kerr, QC. I don't really like lawyers (or the law) in general, but she's pretty cool, I think.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17759756.post-1131390137147658462005-11-08T08:02:00.000+13:002005-11-08T08:02:00.000+13:00Isn't the better course of action to leave the guy...Isn't the better course of action to leave the guy rather than kill him?<BR/><BR/>Yes I know it isn't all that easy, but surely still preferable to killing him.David Farrarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16671886921725110921noreply@blogger.com